As I move further along in my pregnancy, I come to the fork in the road that we must all face as women. The shower. If you’re like most women, it’s a tradition you maintain when you get engaged and have a baby, you accept it and move on. I must not be like most women because I hate showers. I know, I’m weird. But I find that as I meet more and more women and talk to younger age groups across the board, theses women are starting to feel the same way I do. Could it be that we are moving into a generation, where women are changing the way we celebrate wedding and babies? It’s especially hard when you grow up in the south where Southern ideals and traditions are law. Well, I like to do things differently. For starters, I like to plan my own parties. I planned my own bridal shower and I planned my own baby shower. Call me a control freak if you want, but I don’t see a problem with it. I like what I like and when it comes to a party I have very specific ideas (thanks to pinterest!) and I know that no one will make the party look like I want it to look. Add to the mix your in laws and well it could lead to heads butting and miscommunication. If it’s important to you, stick to your guns and it helps if you have backup. Luckily, my husband is super supportive of me and loves my outside the box thinking and my mom, well I couldn’t ask for a better one. Having them stick up for me when people want me to go the traditional route helps tremendously. Now if you’re like me and you like the non-traditional shower idea, I recommend compromising. For my bridal shower, I had an all-white tea party for my friends and family in New Orleans and my mother in law and sisters-in-law threw me one on the Northshore for their side of the family. For my baby shower, I had a co-ed baby shower with NO games. That’s right. It took a lot of convincing but it worked out perfectly. The guys were happy as long as they didn’t have to play games and had beer and the women were happy because I opened presents and they got to ooh and aah over that. Add some good food and good company and you can’t go wrong. Just see for yourselves. I’ve added some pics to give you inspiration!
The shower was a BBQ theme. This was the invitation (I used Etsy to customize it and printed them out through Vistaprint):
Another Pinterest creation!
I had to have some sort of game so I had a calendar and people had to guess when the baby would be due as well as the opportunity to write a note: wishes for the baby and advice for mom and dad (what did we do without Pinterest!!)
For the dessert table, I had a friend Rachael Russo Swanson who has a side baking business make cupcakes (she also made my wedding cake and if you’re on Instagram give her a follow @sugar_rush_nola or Sugar Rush Nola on Facebook), another friend made a strawberry shortcake drizzled in Gran Marnier (because you know, not everyone is pregnant at the party!) and then I ordered cookies in the shape of bowties, mustaches, pacifiers and baby bottles from a local bakery (Sugar Love Cakes www.sugarloveslidell.com). I threw in some colored candy from Party City and there you have it:
I also had indoor and outdoor seating with a water slide for any kids that came. Plus instead of flowers outside to attract bugs, I made all natural citronella mason jars (see my facebook page for how to make them yourself). Below is one of my nephews enjoying the water balloons and slide:
And last but not least, what to wear?! Well it’s a 100 degrees here in Louisiana so I wanted to look cute and be comfortable. Thanks to Pink Blush Maternity (pinkblushmaternity.com), an online site I recently discovered, I can have it both ways. I found the cutest dresses on there and picked this one for my shower. My headband I got from Forever 21 and my sandals (I know you can’t see my feet and it’s probably for the best considering how swollen they are) were from the Gap. I felt cool and comfortable even though I’m huge!!
How many of you out there like the non-traditional shower? I’d love to hear from you!